It can be upsetting when someone you care about is struggling with their mental health. You may want to help but feel unsure how.
The most important thing is to let them lead. Everyone has different needs. What helps one person might not help another.
People with mental health problems often feel like they have no control. Try not to take over. Let them make choices about their life and recovery.
Here are some ways you can help.
Believe what they tell you
Let them know that you believe them. You might not understand everything they are going through, but you can show you care.
You can say things like:
“I can see this is really hard for you.”
“You’re not alone – I’m here with you.”
Spend time together
Try to spend quality time with them. You could:
- go for a walk
- watch a film
- sit and talk
- do something they enjoy
Let them choose what feels right.
Help with everyday tasks
Offer to take on small jobs if you can. This could include:
- tidying up
- cooking meals
- helping with shopping
- looking after older children
If you can’t help, support others to do so.
Support with the baby
If they’ve just had a baby, they might need different kinds of help.
Ask what they prefer. They may want:
- you to care for the baby for a short time, so they can rest
- you to do housework or errands so they can spend time with the baby
Listen without judgement
Let them talk. Listen to what they are saying without changing the subject.
Try not to talk about how you feel or give advice unless they ask.
Never say it’s their fault or judge them for how they feel. If you do want to give advice, ask:
"Would you like me to share an idea that might help?"
Just being there helps
You might feel sad or helpless if you can’t make them feel better. That’s normal.
What matters most is that you’re there for them. Kind and caring relationships help people recover.
Look after yourself too
Supporting someone with mental health problems can be hard.
Make sure you rest and talk to someone you trust too.